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MYNP believes that loving Nanay is tantamount to loving Tatay and every member of the family.
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From joy and attachment to anxiety and protectiveness, mothering behavior begins with biochemical reactions.
“This is what we call an aspect of almost the obsessive compulsive behaviors during the very first few months after the baby’s arrival,” maternal brain researcher Pilyoung Kim told me. “Mothers actually report very high levels of patterns of thinking about things that they cannot control. They’re constantly thinking about baby. Is baby healthy? Sick? Full?”
“In new moms, there are changes in many of the brain areas,” Kim continued. “Growth in brain regions involved in emotion regulation, empathy-related regions, but also what we call maternal motivation—and I think this region could be largely related to obsessive-compulsive behaviors. In animals and humans during the postpartum period, there’s an enormous desire to take care of their own child.”
There are several interconnected brain regions that help drive mothering behaviors and mood.
Thus, the greater amygdala response to one’s own infant face observed in our study likely reflects more positive and pro-social aspects of maternal responsiveness, feelings, and experience. Mothers experiencing higher levels of anxiety and lower mood demonstrated less amygdala response to their own infant and reported more stressful and more negatively valenced parenting attitudes and experiences.
Much of what happens in a new mother’s amygdala has to do with the hormones flowing to it. The region has a high concentration of receptors for hormones like oxytocin, which surge during pregnancy.
“We see changes at both the hormonal and brain levels,” brain researcher Ruth Feldman told me in an email. “Maternal oxytocin levels—the system responsible for maternal-infant bonding across all mammalian species—dramatically increase during pregnancy and the postpartum [period] and the more mother is involved in childcare, the greater the increase in oxytocin.”
Oxytocin also increases as women look at their babies, or hear their babies’ coos and cries, or snuggle with their babies. An increase in oxytocin during breastfeeding may help explain why researchers have found that breastfeeding mothers are more sensitive to the sound of their babies’ cries than non-breastfeeding mothers. “Breastfeeding mothers show a greater level of [brain] responses to baby’s cry compared with formula-feeding mothers in the first month postpartum,” Kim said. “It’s just really interesting. We don’t know if it’s the act of breastfeeding or the oxytocin or any other factor.”
What scientists do know, Feldman says, is that becoming a parent looks—at least in the brain—a lot like falling in love. Which helps explain how many new parents describe feeling when they meet their newborns. At the brain level, the networks that become especially sensitized are those that involve vigilance and social salience—the amygdala—as well as dopamine networks that incentivize prioritizing the infant. “In our research, we find that periods of social bonding involve change in the same ‘affiliative’ circuits,” Feldman said. “We showed that during the first months of ‘falling in love’ some similar changes occur between romantic partners.” Incidentally, that same circuitry is what makes babies smell so good to their mothers, researchers found in a 2013 study.
The greatest brain changes occur with a mother’s first child, though it’s not clear whether a mother’s brain ever goes back to what it was like before childbirth, several neurologists told me. And yet brain changes aren’t limited to new moms.
Men show similar brain changes when they’re deeply involved in caregiving. Oxytocin does not seem to drive nurturing behavior in men the way it does in women, Feldman and other researchers found in a study last year. Instead, a man’s parental brain is supported by a socio-cognitive network that develops in the brain of both sexes later in life, whereas women appear to have evolved to have a “brain-hormone-behavior constellation” that’s automatically primed for mothering. Another way to look at it: the blueprint for mothering behavior exists in the brain even before a woman has children.
Perhaps, then, motherhood really is like secret space in a woman’s brain, waiting to be discovered. “Although only mothers experience pregnancy, birth, and lactation, and these provide powerful primers for the expression of maternal care via amygdala sensitization,” researchers wrote, “evolution created other pathways for adaptation to the parental role in human fathers, and these alternative pathways come with practice, attunement, and day-by-day caregiving.”
In other words, the act of simply caring for one’s baby forges new neural pathways—undiscovered rooms in the parental brain.
By Boy Abunda
The Philippine Star
November 3, 2016
Champagne Morales and her late mother singer-actress Dinah Dominguez always had a beautiful relationship. They got along well with each other. Dinah was always by the side of Champagne during good times and bad.
Champagne, now happily married to Alf Mendoza and a mom to a one-and-a-half year old Ariana, says that her mom was very supportive. It was Dinah who entertained press people who attended Champagne’s album launches and other events when the latter was still active as a singer-actress.
Dinah knew Champagne always wanted to sing, back when she was still in bobby socks. So Dinah enrolled Champagne in the best theater workshops, like Repertory Philippines and Trumpets. Experts from well-known music schools like the one Ryan “Mr. C” Cayabyab owns, and Yamaha honed Champagne’s singing voice.
Dinah could have just sat back and relax, while seasoned trainors honed her daughter’s skills. But she didn’t.
“She would listen to me practice my songs and tell me how I can improve as a singer. She organized events and let me sing in them so I can hone my craft. She promoted me to all her friends in the industry,” recalls Champagne.
Dinah’s lasting gift to her daughter is confidence.
Champagne admits she wasn’t the belting type of singer. She didn’t believe she could even make it past the auditions for the Metropop Star Search in 1998.
But Dinah would hear nothing of it. She knew her daughter had the makings of a champion. So, she convinced Champagne to try her luck in the singing competition.
True enough, Champagne emerged grand champion with her rendition of Journey to the Past. Champagne was stunned. But not Dinah. She knew her daughter is a born winner.
“I would not have joined if it weren’t for my mom. Praise God for the victory that He gave me in that competition. It definitely helped me have a fantastic career,” gushes Champagne.
Thanks to the contest, big doors of opportunity opened wide for her. She got a recording deal, a regular GMA show, endorsements, live shows, etc. And all that was because she had a mom who believed in her.
Now with her mom gone (Dinah succumbed to heart attack last Oct. 14 at age 59), Champagne can’t help but think of the many things she’ll be missing, so badly.
Questions come one after the other.
“Who will fight for me now? Who will I run to now whenever I am broken?” Champagne asks.
When she’s on stage and Dinah is in the audience, Champagne feels she can do no wrong.
Her strong-willed mother makes Champagne feel she can conquer the world.
She’s still in shock, because she can’t get over visions of those terrible moments when her family, then the doctors tried to revive her beautiful mom.
“Life without my mom is so tough. Now I have to be the stronger one. I can’t believe that life goes on when she’s no longer in it,” laments Champagne.
But she realizes she couldn’t be selfish. She should let go, and let God.
“I know that she (Dinah) is so full of joy and peace in the arms of Jesus. She wouldn’t want me to have any regret at all because she is having the time of her life with the Father,” says Champagne.
Champagne realizes that all she has to do is trust God’s ways, and believe that He has wonderful plans for her and her family.
This puts a smile on Champagne’s face, wiping away her sadness at the thought that she could have done more for her mom while she was still alive.
Champagne also finds comfort in the thought that Ariana made her grandma happy. Did Dinah see another Champagne in Ariana by teaching her how to sing Tomorrow from the hit musical Annie?
Is this why Dinah always reminded Champagne to let Ariana watch Annie?
Champagne will never know. All she knows is her mom prepared her to fight life’s battles.
“She told me to be strong and not to let anyone put me down,” says Champagne.
While she’s doing her best to keep her chin up all the time (“I’m very patient sometimes to a fault’), Champagne cheers herself up by singing The Glory of Love. Dinah always wanted Champagne to sing Bette Midler’s song from the movie Beaches.
Part of the lyrics says, “You’ve got to laugh a little, cry a little/until the clouds roll by a little/That’s the story of, that’s the glory of love.”
It reminds Champagne that Dinah always wanted her to fight the good fight. And Champagne is paying tribute to her mom by doing so. — With reports from Almed Garcia and Julian Mauricio
By Boy Abunda
The Philippine Star
March 30, 2017
Aside from my mother, two women influenced my life in a way that only the Divine could have arranged. What a journey it has been. Thank you for these formidable mentors who taught me how it is to live, to love, to lose, to win, to explore, to read, to question, to be content and happy, to be proud of who I am and to know who I am not. And in celebration of the International Women’s Month, I pay homage to these great women whom I am eternally grateful!
Helena Zoila Benitez
Helena Benitez — one of the most revered educators, a patriot, a nationalist, a diplomat, a great politician — was the seventh woman to be elected to the Philippine senate. I was always in awe of Tita Helen. It was her who pushed me to further my academic endeavors. When I could not march to my masteral graduation, she allowed me to stage my own in her presence and in the company of my friends. When I went for the evaluation of my doctoral dissertation, she was there again making sure I didn’t run away. Because really, running away sometimes is the bravest that one can do in dissertation writing and defense.
In my last interview with the great Tita Helen, I asked her to complete the sentence: “I am Helena Benitez…”
And she quipped: “I am Helena and I am a Filipina.”
I realized that in front of me was one of the last great patriots.
The former senator graduated magna cum laude with a degree of Bachelor of Arts and Bachelor of Science in Education. Later on, she took Master of Arts at the George Washington University in addition to her post-graduate studies at the University of Chicago and the Iowa State College.
Eventually, she became the first Filipina chairperson of the UN Commission on the Status of Women and the first Filipina and first woman to become the president of the governing council of the UN Environment Programme (UNEP).
Aside from her advocacies in environmental protection, women’s rights, education, she founded the Bayanihan in 1956 through the inaugural show titled Bayanihan: An Evening of Music and Dance Festival, on Aug. 1, 1956. This was followed by the establishment of Bayanihan Folk Arts Center in 1957 and Bayanihan Folk Arts Association in 1959. According to my dear friend Suzie Benitez, The Bayanihan Folk Arts Foundation was established in 1997. Bayanihan was declared National Dance Company of the Philippines in 1998 through RA 8626.
She was later awarded with The Order of Sikatuna by President Fidel Ramos, an order of diplomatic merit conferred upon diplomats, officials and nationals of foreign states who have rendered exceptional and meritorious services by fostering, developing and strengthening relations between their country and the Philippines.
I was a PA (Production Assistant) or an ASM (Assistant Stage Manager) at the Metropolitan Theater (Met). I was doing a great job taking care of the costumes, props and other matters backstage. I was a diligent stagehand who made friends with all, including the spirits that roamed the Met.
One day, I was summoned to Rm. 1107 of then Manila Hilton (now Manila Pavilion). I was told, the great Conching Sunico wanted to see me. She was head of Karilagan International, and at the same time, executive director of the newly-renovated Metropolitan Theater.
“Do you want to work for me?”
She asked the moment I stepped into the room…
“Yes, ma’am!,” I politely shot back. My knees were weak. I thought I was disintegrating.
I motioned to leave — quietly, not wanting to distract the solemnity in the room where everyone was busy working. But I forgot to ask what my job was. So I turned back to Tita Conching and bravely inquired.
“What’s my job, ma’am?”
“PR,” she curtly declared.
“What is PR, ma’am?”
“I will teach you.”
She looked me in the eyes and I melted. It was the start of my best education. — With reports from Drew Castillo and Almed Garcia
By Boy Abunda
February 23, 2012
Here is the continuation of the story on my trip to Cagayan de Oro, one of the most affected areas hit by the wrath of
Following are first-hand stories of people who lived to tell their tale.
I met young boys and girls in the evacuation centers with stories that will forever be with me for as long as I live.
Mario lost both his parents. He wanted to tell us his story but after a few words, the rest was drowned by the pain he was going through. He broke into a wail that had no sound, head bowed, I saw his whole body tremble. After the engagement, he came to me and hugged me so tight I thought he was a boa constrictor. “Kuya Boy, sorry hindi ko po kaya pero kakayanin ko.” I saw tears run down his 14-year-old cheeks. Present in these sessions were counselors, psychologists who handle victims like Mario. All I could do was cry with him. Many times during these engagements, I lost my power of words.
Shiela, also 14, lost her father. She saw him being dragged away by the merciless currents of the CDO river. Shiela was very quiet during the engagement. She kept to herself. “Malayo ang tingin. Halatang malalim ang iniisip,” observed a volunteer. Amidst tears, she silently declared, “Hindi ako naniniwalang patay ang tatay. Baka nasa Hongkong. Kasi may mga naanod doon.” And she went back to staring the distance, hoping, wishing that Tatay would appear.
Ronnie, 13, lost all eight members of his family. “Bahala na po. Siguro, kaya ko ito.” He was defiant to pain and love. “May dahilan ang Diyos.” Ronnie prepared for his meeting with us. He fixed his hair like a rock star. Despite being broken, you know this boy will rock his way through life.
Zeny, 16, was with four other friends.They hanged on to a piece of log for nine hours. At some point, two of her friends wanted to give up. “Hindi na namin kaya. Kayo na lang.” Zeny was adamant. “Hindi, ’wag tayo bibitaw. Kaya natin ito.” This conversation would be repeated all through out their ordeal until miraculously when one of her friends was really decided to let go of the log, they found themselves in the shores of Camiguin.
Ver, 16, is a young gay boy. He saved his parents and grandparents. He risked his life to swim and rescue his family. He, who was teased unrelentlessly about being gay, proved to be the strongest in body and spirit. He saved everyone in his family. In the evacuation center, Ver is back to where he was. He is afraid to mingle with others because he is mercilessly bullied. “Baklang panget.” He decided to turn deaf by sashaying away from people assuring himself that he has not done anything wrong. He constantly prays, “Sana maging mabait ang tao sa akin. Bakla man ako, wala naman akong ginagawang masama sa kanila.”
Will you fight back? I asked. “Opo, isang araw, lalabanan ko sila.” He meant every word of it. I embraced him tightly and wanted him to know that I will be there for him.
Zaldy, 17, worked for a fast-food chain in CDO four hours a day. When Sendong attacked CDO, he was at work. He decided with the other employees to stay in the restaurant as they live in a faraway place. “Hindi ko inisip na aabutin kami ng baha. Mataas ang lugar namin. At alam kong safe ang pamilya ko. Brother ko 16 at ang parents ko, lahat malakas at marunong lumangoy. Panatag ang loob ko na okay ang pamilya ko.” He arrived at their small barrio by the sea at 8 a.m. Theirs was the highest point of the barrio. His parents were alive. He was not surprised. They were rescued and brought to a public school at the height of the storm. But his 16-year-old brother, his hip-hop dancing partner, his best friend was missing. He searched for him until he got to a place where authorities lined up cadavers. His 16-year-old brother was there, dead. He wept. He was broken. He was not only a brother but a best friend. But how did this happen? He was a strong 16-year-old boy and a fierce swimmer. He asked his parents. His younger brother after having been rescued with his parents, insisted on going back to their house because he wanted to retrieve his one and only pair of dancing shoes. He never came back.
Zaldy was inconsolable. But in this engagement, the pain was in the spirit. “Masakit. Masakit.”
“Who was the better dancer?” I asked trying to distract him from his tears. “Siya po ang husay niya. Isang tingin lang niya sa TV nakukuha na niya kaagad. Siya ang nagtuturo sa akin. Madalas kaming sumali sa contest. Minsan nananalo, minsan talo. Masaya kami. Ngayon wala na siya. Wala na akong partner.”
Will you still continue to dance? “Opo sasayaw pa rin ako. Pero ngayon, lahat ng sayaw ko gagawin ko para sa kapatid ko.”
I wept feeling sorry that in my own dance, many times I have been lost and blinded by the ephemeral trappings of fame and celebrity.
The next day I returned to the big city with an impregnable resolve to be a better dancer, profoundly grateful that I am alive and in the middle of many storms I don’t have to go back anywhere to retrieve my dancing shoes for I have been blessed with many pairs.
And from now on, every dance will be for His glory, for my partner and friends, for my brothers and sisters, for my neighbors, for my beloved mother and for my beloved country.
By Boy Abunda
The Philippine Star
April 24, 2012
The Philippine political stage is more festive and riveting because of the phenomenal Sen. Miriam Defensor-Santiago. Some adore her to the point of blasphemous veneration. Others detest her like a tempestuous diva. But no one dares ignore Lady Miriam, for fear of being thrown to the Atlantic Ocean to be devoured by hungry sea monsters.
Below are the reasons why I adore one of the most fascinating people in the world.
1. She makes me proud of being Bisaya. She is mighty proud of being a probinsyana. She inspires like Sojourner Truth. She is one big testament that the ferocious Visayan accent does not in any way define the mind and heart of anyone. It unwittingly celebrates her brilliance. She is unapologetic about her accent because she knows that what she has in her mind and heart is what matters the most.
2. She defines her beauty. She is extremely comfortable with who she is physically and spiritually. She doesn’t fall into the trap of the Hermeses, the Chanels, the Loboutins and the Valentinos. She has a style of her own, a style that captures her persona. She is a fashion original. She is alone in her league. She is a style star because she doesn’t pander to any fashion dictator. And she self-deprecates — she laughs at herself and she sparkles.
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3. I enjoy it when she makes me run to Webster/Wikipedia. In the ongoing impeachment trial of Chief Justice Renato Corona, I have learned the meaning of “excessive entanglement,” “direct and representative democracy,” “panoply of human rights,” “tripartite democracy,” “due process clause” and the hilarious “waah!”
4. She doesn’t emasculate men. She feels very comfortable as a woman. She must be an exciting wife to her husband Jun Santiago. She doesn’t lose her femininity amidst the fire and the verbosity. Never for a single second did I imagine that she was not a woman or that she was a member of the LGBT community where she is very welcome. From experience, I know, she respects gays.
5. She is a target shooter. What a woman! She certainly knows her targets. And it’s not just about the eyes focusing on her target but it’s about the heart and the mind knowing the target. It’s a holistic technique and you learn this from Miriam. She brings that to the Senate floor, to her interviews, to various public fora, to diverse platforms. She shoots her targets bull’s-eye.
6. I love her because she knows how important it is to be relevant. Her pick-up lines rock. “Sana naka-off ang ilaw para tayo na lang mag-on.” “Nakalimutan ko ang pangalan mo eh pwede bang tawagin na lang kitang akin?” “Pag wala ka, buhay ko’y parang lapis na di pa natatasahan — pointless.” “When someone told me ‘ang ganda mo,’ I answered ‘sana ikaw rin.’” This is her way of telling her public, especially the youth, that “Hey, I’m interested to know you.”
Language is very important. Nelson Mandela, when he was fighting against the apartheid in South Africa, was criticized by the members of the African National Congress because at one point he studied the Afrikaans, the language of the white Africans. He was asked, “Why are you studying their language when they are our enemies?” He said something like, “You know that when you negotiate and fight with your enemy, you have to know their language, you have to know their sensibilities, you have to know what they’re talking about, you have to know their jokes, and you have to know what makes them laugh and cry. Studying their language gives you a window to the soul of your friends and adversaries.”
7. I love her because she is unpretentiously a politician of the first order. There are many ways of loving and serving this country. Some people are very good at accounting while others are good in the arts. Miriam is a brilliant legislator. She is an expert politician because a politician is someone who engages in activities that make better life for all. (People scoff at the word “politician” because in this country it has become tantamount to corruption and all the contemptuous words in hell.)
8. She has one of the most amazing and fabulous libraries I’ve ever seen in anybody’s house. It is a library where I can live my life forever. It’s a beautiful library. It is to-die-for and the kind that would drag you back home whatever happens in the outside world. Her library is paradise without Adam, Eve and the snake.
9. I like her because she is not afraid of anything and many people are afraid of her. She speaks her mind out in a way that is iconic. She speaks with panache. She is unstoppable. And because she has this power, the guilty and the faint of heart are afraid of her.
10. I like her because despite barbs and criticisms from members of the Catholic Church, she remains unwavering in her faith as a Christian. She will debate about theology, she will fiercely discuss her disagreements with members of the Catholic Church, she will say the funniest quips and the most sardonic jabs but she never said, “I am getting out of the Church or I don’t believe in God simply because I have disagreements with you.” She remains true to her God.
11. I know she is going to make this country proud in the International Court of Justice because of her encyclopedic knowledge of international law and her panoramic understanding of the human heart and soul.
12. She is not personal. She said, “I’m too old to be personal.” And she is not in her intellectual collisions with peers and in her verbal tussles with her adversaries. To her, it is part of a vibrant and intelligent discourse and then she laughs, goes to her corner and grabs her impregnable serenity.
13. She must be a damn good friend. Her college best friend is still her best friend today. This tells you a lot of what kind of a friend Miriam is.
In the world of politics, nobody has played her role better than Miriam Defensor-Santiago. On this stage she is a superstar. Waah!
Ang Sine Ng Buhay Ni Nanay
(Para Sa SineNanay 2016)
Ni Marcel Milliam
Ang sine ng buhay ni Nanay
Kumpleto sa sangkap
Maaksyon ang bawat eksena
Kailangan ng ibayong lakas
Nakikipaglaban sya sa sanlaksang kaaway
Labada man yun o mga tao
Sa pagtatanggol sa kanyang mga anak
Ipaglalaban nya ang pamilya.
Madrama ang bawat tagpo
Puno ng pagmamahalan at minsan
Iyakan din sa mga pighati
At mga pagsubok na dumarating sa buhay.
Makomedya din ang sine ni Nanay
May mga tawanan na pumupuno
Sa bahay at sa buhay
Magaan basta’t ang pamilya’y naghahalakhakan.
May sangkap pantasya din minsan
Lalo na kailangan ng konting imahinasyon
Sa pagbabudget ng gastusin man yun
O sa mga pangarap na hinahabi nya para sa anak.
Misteryo’t horror din minsan
Ang mga pangamba at mga takot
Na matapang nyang hinaharap
Sa araw araw na pagtataguyod.
Syempre pa, si Nanay, best actress
Kayang ilampaso ang sikat na mga artista
Sya ang bida, sya din minsan kontrabida
Kamangha mangha talaga ang sine ng buhay nya.
Ang sine ng buhay ni Nanay ay tutoo
Ito’y tungkol sa akin at sa iyo
Kaya halika, tunghayan at subaybayan
Buhay na dakila ni nanay, tutoong sineng itatanghal.
Make Your Nanay Proud
Ni Marcel Milliam
Magsusulat ako ng tula
Hindi ko na masyadong hahabaan
Iiksihan ko na lang para matapos agad
Wala naman kasi akong bagong sasabihin.
Tungkol ito sa aking mahal na Nanay.
Oh di ba? Lahat naman nasabi na?
Hindi naman ako magaling na makata
Kaya ano pa ba ang aking maidadagdag.
Alam na ng lahat na sya ay dakila
Alam na din ang kanyang kalinga
Naisulat na ng mas maganda
Ang kabusilakan ng puso nya.
Nasabi na ri siguro ng iba
Ang walang kapantay na pagmamahal nya
Naisatula na rin ng marami
Ang walang pagod nyang dedikasyon sa pamilya.
Ano pa nga ba ang maidadagdag ko
Sa apakahaba nang listahan ng mga tula
Na iniaalay para sa mga ina
Ano ang hindi naririnig pa?
Ngunit bakit yata tila kulang pa rin
Ang mga tulang alay sa kanya?
Bakit naitutulak pa rin ng puso ang pluma
Kapag si Nanay na ang pinag uusapan.
Ang tutoo nyan, walang salita
Na maisisulat ko o masambit nino man
Ang magiging sapat para parangalan
Ang ating mga nanay.
Paano mo ba kasi pasasalamatan
Ang taong unang nagturo sa yong magsulat
Unang nagtyaga upang makapagbasa
Syang nagluwal at sa akin agbigay buhay?
Masabi man ang lahat lahat
Ito ay hindi pa rin sapat
Na pasasalamat at pagpupugay
Sa aking mahal na nanay.
Maubos man ang mga kataga
Maubos man ang mga talata
Masabi man ng paulit ulit
Maisulat man ang bawat metapora.
Walang wala ang aking mga tula
Kulang na kulang pa rin gaano man kahaba
Abutin man tayo ng susunod na linggo
Hindi mauubos ang pagpupugay ko.
Mas mainam na lang siguro
Kung ang pasasalamat ko ay idadaan
Sa araw araw na pamumuhay
Na magiging kalugod lugod sa kanya
Isusulat ko ang aking tula
Sa pamamagitan ng pamumuhay ko
Marangal at mahusay para kay Nanay
Sa bawat sandali ko dito sa mundo.
Kaya magsusulat ako ng tula
Hindi ko na masyadong hahabaan
Para sa simula at katapusan ng aking lahat lahat
Nanay, pangako ko, maipagmamayabang mo ako.
Teresita Sy-Coson, Vice Chairperson of SM Investments Corporation, for #JuanaSays – “…Your ability to combine your best qualities no matter what your gender is will be your greatest source of strength.” #WomenMakeChange #MYNPSupporter
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By Millie Manahan
Eat twin bananas for twins? Swallow a raw egg for easier delivery? Read this to debunk the different Filipino pregnancy superstitions or “pamahiin”.
If there’s one thing about the Filipino culture that people should know, it’s that Filipinos are very superstitious. In fact, Pinoys have superstitions (pamahiin) about almost everything: be it marriage, moving into a new house or one’s pregnancy. Nowadays, you’d think that parents would be more informed as to why said superstitions are nothing by myths passed down from one generation to the next, but surprisingly there is still fair share who continue to believe.
If you fall under this category, then we suggest that you continue to read on to know the scientific explanations that will debunk 5 Pinoy pregnancy “pamahiin”.
- If you want to have twins, eat twin bananas!
Many of the elderly believe that if you eat twin bananas, it increases your chances of having multiples. However, thanks to modern medicine, parents nowadays know that multiples are the result of genetic issues:
(a) One egg is released but splits into two, thus identical twins are made. This can occur with or without fertility drugs.
(b) Multiple eggs are released or there is more than one ovulation. Both (or more) eggs are fertilized and you have fraternal twins. This can happen with or without fertility drugs.
- If you’re tummy is pointed, you have a boy. If it’s round, you have a girl.
Contrary to popular belief, the shape of your baby bump does NOT determine the sex of your baby. Instead, your stomach taking on the shape it has is determined by several factors such as muscle tone, uterine tone and the position the baby is in.
If you think you’re carrying a boy because your stomach is low, than hate to break it to you, but it’s actually because your baby dropped lower into the delivery because you’re closer to delivery. If you want an accurate means of knowing the gender of your baby, then ask your doctor about having an ultrasound.
- Don’t eat adobo or dark chocolate or else your baby will inherit the color!
Comparable to the “if you see something ugly, your baby will be ugly too!” myth, the things that you see or eat do NOT necessarily determine your child’s physical features. Going back to your high school Biology class, your baby’s physical features will be greatly determined by genetics.
The biological parents give their unborn child a total of 46 chromosomes. 23 from the mother and the other set of 23 chromosomes are from the father. In Biology (if you still remember), we studied about chromosomes, and that dominant gene always beats out the recessive one. Therefore, the baby’s looks depend on the dominant gene.
- “Don’t cut your hair” or “swallow a raw egg” so that you have an easier time during delivery!
It’s no surprise that there is no scientific explanation to back up these claims. Contrary to these pamahiins, labor is dependent on the mom’s well-being. In order to have a relatively easier labor, doctors and health experts recommend that the mom keep fit and active during her pregnancy.
Keeping fit and building up your endurance will allow you to better tolerate labor pains and decrease the need for more medical intervention than necessary. However, it is very important that you always seek your doctor’s advice with regards to fitness activities during pregnancy.
- Kain lang ng kain, you’re eating for two!
Although it is important that the mommy-to-be stay healthy and happy, it is important to know that you DO NOT have to eat everything that you’re craving for. Eating for two does not mean eating twice the portions, but rather, eating food that will provide your baby with the nutrients needed to ensure it’s well-being. Unnecessary weight gain caused by overeating during pregnancy may not only make weight loss harder to achieve after delivery, but may cause problems during delivery as well. Therefore, it is best to be prudent with your food and liquid intake during pregnancy.
Superstitions or Pamahiin are not easy to shake-off or to ignore because they’ve been greatly ingrained into our culture, but the next time your tita or lola tells you to do something that doesn’t seem to make sense, then fret not, politely hear them out and stay calm knowing that there may be a scientific explanation out there that will easily debunk it.